What is the role of the husband and the wife in the family?

Jocelyn answered…

The role of husband and wife in the family is to first and foremost love each other! Wow, revolutionary!!!
I have found that when there is love and complete commitment between my husband and I, there is no problem that we cannot face together. It is much easier to teach the children with love and to handle life's challenges.
My husband and I are equals. I feel loved, respected, and appreciated by him. I hope he feels the same things from me.

Katie answered…

Husband and wife in a marriage are meant to be equal, partners. The husband is the head of the household and is responsible for the temporal welfare of his family. His role is to support his wife. The wife is also to support her husband and to nurture her family both spiritually and emotionally. Husband and wife are meant to work side by side in providing a safe haven from the world for their family. Their roles are different, but equally important and essential to building the family and the community.

Grant answered…

I feel it is whatever the husband and wife work it out to be. In my home, my wife and I have worked out a system that we both feel is fair.

C. Reed Scothern answered…

husband and wife are equals working together in all things to better the home and family.

Alicia! answered…

Husband and wife are co-equals, partners, one in purpose. The husband is the providor and protector in the home. He should lead his children by example, and always treat their mother with the highest respect and love. The wife is the primary nurturer in the home and, if at all possible, should stay at home with them and see to their education in all things.

Home is where children learn to share, sacrifice, support, and be better spouses and parents themselves, one day. 

Candee answered…

Our prophet, President Hinckley, set forth The Family, A Proclamation to the World. It is a revelation given to our Prophets and Apostles that outlines God's direction for families. Therein we learn that marriage is ordained of God, and that a husband and wife are partners in rearing a family. The father's role is to lead the family in righteousness, to provide and protect, both spiritually and temporally for the family. The mother's role is to counsel with her husband and sustain him in his leadership roles both at home, at church, at work, and in the community. She is primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. Together they teach their children the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Lindsay Miller answered…

Mormons believe that a Husband and wife have a sacred responsibility to have and raise children. Husbands are to preside over the family. Not in a controlling way but in a similar way that Christ presides over the people in his church, with loving affection and concern for their well being. Husbands provide for their family with physical needs and emotional and spiritual safety. Wives are to nurture and provide for the growth and development of their children. Husband and Wives are to respect one another and make decisions regarding their family together. They have a responsibility to create a home atmosphere where children feel safe, where they can grow and develop physically and spiritually. Even if a husband and wife are not able to have children, they have a responsibility to create the same safe home atmosphere and to protect and nourish each other with love and respect.

Kelsey answered…

The LDS church teaches that women and men should work together as equal partners: "fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners" (A Proclamation to the World). Another wonderful statement from Elder L. Tom Perry clarifies our beliefs about men and women working together in family leadership: "There is not a president and vice president in a family. We have co-presidents working together eternally for the good of their family . . . They are on equal footing. They plan and organize the affairs of the family jointly and unanimously as they move forward." One of my very favorite clarifications was made by President Boyd K. Packer: "There is no task, however menial, connected with the care of babies, the nurturing of children, or with the maintenance of the home that is not the husband’s equal obligation. The tasks which come with parenthood, which many consider to be below other tasks, are simply above them."

Perhaps my favorite analogy about the role of men and women was taught by Elder Bruce C. Hafen and his wife Sister Marie Hafen: "In the little kingdom of a family, each spouse freely gives something the other does not have and without which neither can be complete and return to God’s presence. Spouses are not a soloist with an accompanist, nor are they two solos. They are the interdependent parts of a duet, singing together in harmony at a level where no solo can go."

In my opinion, the role of husband and wife should be the ultimate model of equality, love, and respect. I know this is the case because it is what God has taught us through scripture and prophets, and because I have prayed about it and know that it is true.

Matt answered…

We believe that fathers are responsible to provide the basic necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture and upbringing of their children. In these roles, husband and wife are to support each other as equal partners.

Tahlia Butler answered…

They have a responsibility to love, help, and encourage each other. They are responsible to work together to create a home where Christ would be a welcome visitor.

Adison Shane answered…

Gender roles can be a hot topic. I believe that one of the greatest blessings in my life has been to have a mother who was always there for me and a father to help guide me in my growth and life progression. The family is such a strong and wonderful base for those who are blessed with it. It is helpful that a mother can stay home and care for the kids where possible, and a father should always seek to support and protect his family. Not being married it can be difficult for me to understand everything that is entailed in a marriage but I feel that a husband and wife should labor together for the benefit of their family. They are partners who don't impose their will on each other but work as a team.  

Kimberlee answered…

In The Family: A Proclaimation to the World it states, "Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. 'Children are an heritage of the Lord' Psalm 127:3. Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations." I know this to be true. I see everyday the effect of this in the world in which we live. It is important that we teach our children what is right so they can teach their children.

Victor answered…

I am so glad that my wife and I work as a team. Our roles and responsibilities are different, but they complement each other. Raising a large family and coming through some years where we didn't have much has taught us a lot about what's important for our family, and the most important thing is not money. People often ask my wife: "do you work?" She invariably responds: "I have ten children, you bet I work!" Of course, they mean: "do you work for money?" But what could be worth more than teaching, caring for, and loving our children, counseling crying teenagers, helping with homework, and all of that. I am so glad that she is willing to devote herself full time to that most important endeavor. Obviously, I'm important too, I keep food on the table and I do my best to teach and nurture my children as well. Since I have nerves of steel, I give the driving lessons, for example. I also make sure we have prayer as a family - morning and night, and I'm pretty awesome as a homework tutor. And yes, I change plenty of dirty diapers!

Todd answered…

I think the main role of a husband is to protect and provide for his family. That means sometimes sacrificing what I want to do, for them. So even though I may not feel like going to work some days, I go because I know that what I do directly influences their lives. I also do my best to be there emotionally for my wife and kids when they need me. Don't get me wrong, my wife does a much better job than I do in being there emotionally for my children, but I try to listen and empathize as best as I can. My wife on the other hand is a great teacher in our family. That is one of her important roles, along with making the house run. Together, we make a great team.

Nathan answered…

Equal partners in everything. We may each have our roles, and those roles may change over time, but I am convinced that a marriage can't be successful if it is not an equal partnership.

Kaya answered…

The husband and wife are a team in the household. The husband should be the provider for the family financially and the wife the nurturer of the children. However, this may not always be possible due to life circumstance. It is important that the husband take a leadership role in the household in conjunction with his wife. Because husbands and wives are the examples children use to attain these roles themselves, it is important that the home is filled with kindess, love, support, and service within the context of expectations determined by the parents using eternal principles.

Barlow answered…

Husbands and wives have very important, even sacred roles. Together they lead their family. While one is not better or more important than the other, they do have many different responsibilities.

A Husband is to love and provide for his wife and children. He is to set an example of service, love, and faith. He is to be a councilor to his wife, just as she is to council with him. He is to lead the family, with his wife at his side. He is responsible for making sure the family has family prayer and scripture study, and is to provide for the family.

A wife loves, guides and directs. She is a light that fills a home with peace and happiness. She is to teach the children, make sure they are nurtured and cared for.

Husbands should help their wife, and wives should help their husbands. Together they can make their home a holy place.

Chris Pyeatt answered…

The husband and wife are to support and strengthen one another. Each are equal in the partnership in raising and teaching their children. Parents efforts in the home will be the most important role in their entire lives.
Children are to learn how to love and serve others through what they learn in the home. Parents are always first where this demonstration comes from. As children grow and observe their parents actions, they should always be in harmony with those of gospel living.

Lonna Jergensen answered…

My husband and I have been married for almost 36 years. We have had our disagreements, but I think that has helped us work out our differences. My husband holds the priesthood and is regarded as the head of the house. But I feel no inferiority. I feel that he supports and loves me. We counsel together over all our major decisions. He has worked hard to provide for his family. I have worked hard in the home to take care of the home and family needs. I trust him to provide me with protection and security. He trusts me to manage our home and children. We complement each other with our strenghs and weaknesses.

Luke answered…

To love my family and beautiful wife, provide for them, study and live the gospel, and live together forever

Drew answered…

One of the most significant aspects of the role of parents is accountability for their children.
This is a very significant principle I teach to my clients - only one person or group can be accountable for something, and that person or group is ultimately in charge of its outcome. Responsibility may be delegated for some things, but the accountable party owns the final decisions. Parents are accountable for their children. Teachers, preachers, and others may have responsibility delegated to them for improving various aspects of the children's lives, but parents ultimately own and lead the development and raising of their children.

Jim answered…

The role of the husband and the wife in the family is to be equal partners in bring up a family and teaching their children to follow the teachings of Jesus Christ. They are to work together in all family matters. The husband is given the primary responsibility for the support of the family. The wife is given the primary responsibility for nurturing of the family. I love to quote Paul in this matter. 1 Corinthians 1111, "Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord." We must work together if we want to spend eternity together.

Ed answered…

How different this world would be if every child had a loving Mother and Father as they grew up. I was blessed with wonderful parents who taught me b example how to live.

One of our Church leaders said that it is the mother's job to teach children how to live in a home and the father's job to teach the how to live outside of the home. I take this to mean that mothers are so important to children because they learn how to communicate, love and care for others. What a beautiful and important responsibility. We Mormons tend to place great honor in the role of a mother. Some people may question why women to not hold positions of leadership within the Church, but if they knew the truth they would know that every leader in our Church honors their wife or mother more greatly than any other person in the world.

As a father, I feel it is my responsibility to teach my children how to deal with life outside of the home. Things like how to prepare for a career, how to deal with bullys or bad influences. In my family I am blessed to be able to have a wife that stays home with the kids so I spend more time outside of the home than anyone else. I try to use what I have learned while working to teach my children how earn their own living someday.

My wife and I work as a team to provide physical and spiritual safety to our children. I know that could not do it alone and I pray for those who must. Our children are our most precious gifts.

Brandon answered…

 The husband is the patriarch of the home. It's under his stewardship what goes on in the home. He is the priesthood holder. He carries the resposibilities of fulfilling his duties at home and in his callings. The wife is the nurturer, counselor, the support. Both have the resposibility to raise children in the ways of the Lord Isaiah 5413

Mauricio answered…

The role of the Mormon husband is not only to provide economically, but more important spiritually for his wife and his children. To love his family and help them get back to Heaven.

Joseph answered…

Together, the husband and wife are to raise their children in a loving way that teaches them to be moral, servicable, Christ-like people. The husband should be the provider and the wife should be the nurturer.

Trisha answered…

I have always felt that a husband and wife always work together. I was raised with both parents working because they had to, but my role as a mother and wife now is at home. I feel that work will not always be equal. Sometimes the wife might have to carry more weight and sometimes the husband has to shoulder the load. All that matters is that both stick together, pray together and stay in love. It takes constant effort, no matter what your situation, to keep it together. Mothers have a gift for taking care of their family, but if you have to work, then Fathers can do a great job too! What works for your family is between husband, wife and Heavenly Father.

Landon answered…

Our church's belief on this principle is often misunderstood. The Lord Jesus Christ was always a protector and advocate of women's rights, and our church is the very same. Sons and daughters of our Heavenly Father were created in His image, and each one has received special gifts and talents. A woman's motherly instinct could never be replicated. For this reason, the church as a whole encourages mothers to have and raise children, while the fathers' primary duty is to support and protect the family. When embraced this principle is truly a blessing.

Nate answered…

We believe that gender is an essential characteristic of our identity, and that we were created - male and female - in the image of God.

Accordingly, we believe that the husband and wife have different roles in the family. One does not stand ahead of the other, but we work side-by-side - as partners - towards creating a strong, and loving family.

The typical role is that the husband is the provider and the wife is the nurturer. But again, this is a team effort and as partners we work together to support each other in all things.

I'm blessed to have an amazing wife who cares so lovingly for our energetic kids. I'm also blessed to have a job that allows me to provide for my family's needs so that my wife can stay home. (She also works from home, helping to make ends meet -- what an awesome lady!!)

Jennifer answered…

The role of the husband and wife is a joint ministry in the sense that it is ordained of God. The husband is to lead the family and the wife is to nurture the family. Both are equal in their companionship. Parents have a duty to raise up their children in remembrance of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

I am preparing for the privilege to raise up seed unto the Lord. We have sacred temples where families can be sealed for an eternity, make covenants and do proxy work for our dead. I want those blessings. I will only be married in the temple because of the knowledge that I have concerning the duties of a husband and wife in the family

Bonnie answered…

To work together, as one with God. One in purpose. One in prayer and one truth; ultimately working to raise a happy, righteous family to the Lord.

(Genesis: 2:24) 'Therefor shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.'

Lolita answered…

They are the earthly guardians of Heavenly Father's children and their mission is to guide them in the Gospel and teach them about our Heavely Father.

Meagan answered…

The role of a husband is to be the leader of the pack. He guides the family in what he feels prompted to teach. He retains personal guidance from our Lord to teach the family what needs to be taught at that time.

The role of a wife is to be there for the family to help raise strong, healthy, and wise children in the church as they counsel with their husbands in finding ways to go about doing that effectively.

Chad answered…

Husbands and wives are the core unit of the Church and of society. We believe that husbands and wives should love, honor and respect each other as equal partners in all things.

Joe answered…

Husbands and wives should work together as a team, as equals, in bringing families into the world and raising them up in the right path. My wife and I find parenting to be challenging at times, but our faith gives us perspective, as well as the desire to do the hard work that parenting involves. We both see our primary responsibilities in family life as sometimes different, but always equal.

Ken answered…

In 1995 the President of our church, who we recognize as a prophet and apostle, read a statement known as the Proclamation on the Family. The beginning of this proclamation includes this concept, "the family is central to the Creator's plan for the eternal destiny of His children." Families come in many different shapes and sizes. Ideally, a family includes a loving husband and wife who raise their children to choose God in their lives. The Lord established this pattern so that His children could receive a fulness of joy in this life and in the life to come. Husbands and wives are partners in the best sense of that word. They make decisions together, work together, play together, teach their children together, and serve the Lord together. Both roles are equally important and each strives to serve the other.

Tasanee answered…

To love one another and to love their children. To provide for each other and their children. To teach them to be responsible citizens, hard workers, righteous, and to love and serve God and others. Husbands main role is to provide physically and to teach. Wives main role is to provide emotionally and to teach.

Jernae answered…

The Father is divinely called to be the spiritual leader of his family. Through the use of the priesthood given to him by the laying on of hands, he leads, blesses and directs his family righteously--not through force or cruelty. The priesthood he holds is to be used to serve those in his family.

The Mother is divinely called to be a nurturer and teacher to her children. Through her own testimony she brings up her children to lean on their Heavenly Father. The nurturing ways and tendencies of the mother is to be used to serve and direct her family.

Both parents work as equals to rear the family. And although it's hard and not always common, this is what we strive for and work towards. A home should be a place of learning, and safety. Being good parents and fulfilling our roles, is not only nice to have, but it's, as the church states, "vital--to society and to the Lord."

Cristel answered…

The roles of each member in a family is found in this AMAZING proclamation that I love called "The Family-A Proclamation to the World" ! :) Here's the link!..

http://lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?hideNav=1&sourceId=1aba862384d20110VgnVCM100000176f620a____&vgnextoid=5158f4b13819d110VgnVCM1000003a94610aRCRD

Kimberly N. answered…

The husband is to preside over his family in love and to provide for their temporal and spiritual needs. The wife is the nurturer--she takes care of the family and home and her primary focus is the teaching, caring for and loving of the children.

Weston answered…

Husbands and wives have the responsibility to be equal partners in the raising and teaching of their children. In this day and age there are two main categories of responsibility, the work at home, and the work outside the home. The work in the home, is the efforts of the parents to keep a clean and safe home for the children to live in. The work outside the home is meant to bring in monetary aid to pay for the expenses of life. It is the responsibly of parents to see that both get fulfilled. The problem is that both are full time jobs, and as such someone has to take the lead in each area. Generally it is the man that takes the outside work, while the woman takes the work at home. This generally works well since the wife is generally better equipped to help in the emotional development of young children, while men are less skilled in this area. This is not always the case however, and each family must prayerfully decide what is best for their family. Now you must remember I said that one has to take the lead in each. Just because you have the lead in one type of work does not provide an excuse for not assisting your companion in their responsibilities. Both must be willing to assist in any way needed to create the best environment for their family to grow.

Emily answered…

Growing up, I remember looking at all the married couples and thinking their life was SO easy because they already had everything planned out for them. HOW WRONG I WAS!
Now that I am a wife and mother, I know married life isn't a walk in the park. Marriage takes work, but I can say that marriage is easier when both of the spouses work together, they show each other that the love and care for each other. If a couple will work together, they will do more for their children, they will have provided a place where the children can come home and escape all the sick things that are in the world right now. Husband and wife have the responsibility of making their home a haven from world a place where they can come and feel loved, supported, and safe. This task is not easy, I have found it to be difficult at times, but I know that by working with my spouse, we can accomplish this.

Kim answered…

In our family, my husband and I are partners. We each have our own responsibilities, but we are equal.
He goes to work to earn money to support our family. I stay home and take care of the children.
When he and I are both home, we equally do dishes, fold laundry, clean the house, play with the children, bathe the children, put them to bed and anything else that needs to be done.
My husband has the Priesthood. One if his responsibilities is to remain worthy to have the Priesthood.
One of my responsibilities is to help keep the Spirit of God in our home during the day and always.
Our children see us working side by side. No one is "the boss". We think this is really important and will help them as they grow to have healthy relationships with their spouses some day.

Patrick answered…

The roles of a father and a mother are inexpensible, irreplaceable, and irrevocable in the formation of a healthy and functional family. Both father and mother share many of the same responsibilities, but also unique ones for each position. I believe God created man and woman to fulfill these responsibilities.

Spencer H. answered…

As a father I work with my wife to raise our children. We have different responsibilities that are equally important. I work out of the home to provide a living for the family. My wife has chosen to stay at home and be with the children. This was the choice that she wanted and she is glad to do it. I am fortunate to have a job where I get to be home during the a good portion of the day. I am here to help tend to the needs of our children so that this, sometimes burden, isn't exclusively my wife's. As far as decisions pertaining to our family, we make them together usually. We have been married long enough that we generally think alike and our decisions tend to be the same. As the father in the home I don't believe my opinion to be more important than my wife's or children, we have benefited as a family to make the decisions together. I remember as a new husband it took a little bit for me to figure this out. My wife is my partner, soul mate, whatever you wish to name it. I can't imagine life any different.

Becky answered…

Husband and wife are to work together as equal partners in the home. The husband's responsibilities include providing for the physical needs of the family, presiding or leading the family in religious matters, and protecting the family. He is also to be a partner to his wife in nurturing. The wife is to nurture the family physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and be a partner to her husband in his responsibilities of providing, leading, and protecting.

Dave answered…

My dear wife and I have 5 children. We try to work together in providing opportunities for our children to grow in faith and learning. While we are generally unified in these goals, sometimes we have to work through differences. We seek to be equal and take up where the other needs help. While there can be many difficulties in raising children and building a healthy relationship, the Gospel of Christ provides the framework for success in our roles as mother and father and wife and husband.

John answered…

We have a document called The Family..A proclamation to the World which outlines and proclaims among many other things that a husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for one another and for their children. Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousnes, to provide for their physical and spirtitual needs, to teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the commandments of God and to be law abiding citizens where ever they live.Husbands and wives-mothers and fathers--will be held accountable before God for the dischage of these obligations.
The family is ordained by God, and we know the strength of any nation is rooted within the halls of its homes and we know families are eternal.

Camie answered…

My husband and I often say we make a great ‘team.’ We have played many different roles in our family as we have each finished graduate degrees, lived in multiple states, and faced several kidney surgeries with an infant son. Throughout each of these times, we have worked as equal partners, each contributing to our ultimate goal, which is to create a loving family that works, plays, serves and worships together. My husband’s primary role is as the provider, and my primary role is to care for and nurture our children. We rely on each other daily, and try to show love and gratitude for each other’s service to the family. I enjoy having a ‘teammate’ in life and in raising my family.

Amber answered…

In my family our roles are slightly different, but we stick to the important facts. My husband is the Priesthood leader in our home and I am the wife and mother. My husband provides for me in ways money cannot buy and I help support the family through my working. My husband is just as capable of raising our children as I am and does an amazing job at it because he is a faithful Priesthood holder and I get through my days at work because I have the gospel in my life. My most important job though, is nurturing my children and I spend all my time off from work investing my energies in my sweet children. We have found the gospel to be a great help to us during this time when I work and my husband is at home because we know what our roles are and what is truly important.

Melissa answered…

The role of husband and wife is a beautiful, eternal partnership. I have seen my parents marriage and I strive for what they have. They work together and support each other on everything. I love the unity that is in a marriage.

Lori answered…

 It is an equal partnership. However, in any successful organization, there can only be one head or leader. It doesn't mean that the rest of the team is not important. It takes a successful team to accomplish the goals of the organization. Just like a successful team/organization, the family has a team leader or the head of the family which is the husband. He works equally with his wife to organize and plan goals, but acts as voice and leader of the family.

Orson answered…

As a pair of scissors have two distinct pieces to work properly so also does a marriage. Many forget marriage is two people working for common objectives losing themselves in service to the lives they bring into the world and others they have daily contact with.

D Ray answered…

My wife and I work together as equal partners as we seek to teach our children correct principles of the Gospel. Our goal is to help our children come unto Christ. As partners we draw on each others strengths to make the product of our efforts greater than the sum of our individual parts. We communicate openly and frequently to make sure we stay on the same page, a united front leading our family home. Our weekly date night is vital for keeping our love and friendship vibrant and alive. My wife is my best friend, my companion, my confidant, my love.

Colleen answered…

In the family, the husband's role is to preside, provide, and protect his wife and children. The mother's role is to support her husband and nurture their children. The man and the woman are equal partners and if both will commit completely to love and obey Heavenly Father, love and support each other, and to love and care for their children, then that family can experience happiness and joy, no matter what trials or challenges they may face.

Lance answered…

They are to work together to provide for both Spiritual and Physical needs of the Children.

julio gonzalez answered…

como patriarca de mi hogar devo ser un digno poesedor del sacerdocio a poner en practica lo que aprendo

del evanjelioy una persona digna de mi padre celestial y ser un buen ejenplo de mi familia

Michael answered…

Husbands and wives are equal partners in proving the care, nurturing and guidance needed within a family. As equal partners both work together to build up each other and each member of the family. Amongst the many tools we have to help us fulfill these responsibilities are the gender differences which our Father in Heaven blessed us with. By recognizing and building on the positive aspects of these differences a husband and wife are able to bring blessings to a family which would otherwise not be present.

Adam answered…

The role of the husband is to honor his priesthood, provide for his family and protect them. The role of the wife is to nurture the family. She should also encourage her husband to honor his priesthood.

Jake answered…

Husband and wife must be equal partners in the efforts to raise a family - an unequal partnership where one spouse dominates or intimidates the other is not in harmony with God's intended family structure.

In some families, the husband works out of the home while the wife stays at home. In other families, the wife works out of the home while the husband stays home. And in some families, both spouses work out of the home.

No matter what the arrangement is in a home, a husband and wife must support, lift up, encourage, and love each other. They should help each other with as many of their duties as is possible. If they have children, they should be aligned in their efforts to raise children by teaching them correct gospel principles and should teach their children together.

Brian answered…

The role of husband and wife has changed over time and Mormons are not much different. However we have tried to maintain the primary roles that we believe we were designed to take. Men, as husbands and fathers, are to work and support the family while women, as wives and mothers, are to care for and nurture their children. In general, modern Mormon households are not much different from other faiths. While men may work outside the home most of the time, they will also make sure to actively share in the home responsibilities including raising the children. Many Mormon women choose to be homemakers instead of working outside of the home when the family has young children, but some women must work outside the home or may simply choose to. The emphasis in the Mormon culture is merely to make sure that family life is treated as a high priority so that home and children are given great care.

Cami answered…

Husband and wife are to love and care for each other and for their children. When Christ is the center of their life, there is more harmony, love and peace in the home. Husband and wife are to respect one another, cherish one another, serve one another, be faithful to one another. Children feel safe and secure when parents strive to treat each other kindly.

Don answered…

To teach our children to follow Jesus Christ and make positive contributions in the world. We also must be good examples of what we want them to become.

Michael Banks Aka Alma I'm LDS answered…

Well The Role I Will Be Playing In The Future IM on my mission now / As A Husband And Whoever My Eternal Queen Is/ Will Be Playing In The Family Are Being Loving Guides On One Accord In Living The Gospel In Our everyday lives ( truly becoming one flesh ) hearking unto one anothers commands making our lives Better In The Sight of the lord ( Leading By Example And Sustaing Each In The Gospel) FOR ALL TIME AND ETERNITY( families will be together forever) =0

Jessica answered…

 The husband should be the protector and provider for the family. He should be the one that provides for the needs of the family financially, but he should also lead his family in doing other things, like reading scriptures and praying together. The wife's primary role for the family is to nurture. This includes things like cleaning and cooking, but also teaching her children, spending time with her kids and helping them learn academics, life skills and the gospel. The wife should also support her husband and help him in making family decisions and living within the salary her husband can provide. Husband and wife should be each other's number one support. They should be completely loyal to each other and respectful to one another. Both should work to provide a good spirit in the home where their children feel safe and comfortable.

Kevin answered…

I really can't speak to what all Mormon women are like, but I can speak to what my wife, who is Mormon, is like. My wife is a wonderful mother and selfless person who serves her family, friends, and others with no expectation of anything in return. She is an educated woman and is a licensed attorney who worked in private practice for many years before joining public service. Unlike many women of any faith, she is able to manage all aspects of her and her family's life with incredible organization and efficiency. I've never thought of her as anything other than an equal in our family or as someone of whom it is very important for me to ensure is treated well, respected, appreciated, and loved. I know she contributes more to our household duties than do I. However, she is aware I do everything possible with the time available to contribute to at least a reasonable extent. I appreciate that she accepts this as sufficient contributions enough to not make me feel bad about my lesser contributions.

Carol answered…

The husband's role in the family is to be the patriarch and provided for the family and the wife's role is to nuture the children and husband. They are a team to teach and raise righteous, loving, religious families for eternity.

James answered…

I am married to a super woman. The roles of husband and wife are somewhat tradtional but not stuck in a time capsule. The wife and husband are equal and participate equally in the family decision-making. It is preferable that the husband support the family through work BUT in this day-and-age sometimes the wife has to work as well. The employment should not be to support extravagent living but for the simple needs of life. The husband and wife should pray together, study together and enjoy one another's company. My wife is my best friend.

Lanae answered…

The husband is the head of the home. That doesn't mean he is the boss of everything. Husband and wife should work together and discuss things that pertain to family, discipline, home, finances and work. Each should be SELFLESS and concerned about what is best for the family not just what is best for one's self and what one 's own wants are. The wife if at all possible should be at home to teach the children and the husband working to support the family. But they should agree on how to raise the children. Consistency with children is important and if the parents don't agree on things then how can the children learn what is right and wrong and what is important. The children also learn what is important in a marriage if they see their parents working together and not fighting.

Tyler answered…

Husbands and wives are equal partners in marriage, and their ultimate role as a partnership is to raise and support a family that will serve the Lord. A married couple must be in complete unity, so as to provide clear leadership for children. Parents also must create a safe environment at home, with as few distractions from service to God as possible. Homes are where children learn how to live the gospel, and parents are tasked with providing a positive example. A home should always be a place of peace and safety. We are the offspring of our Heavenly Father, so we act in similitude to Him, forgiving, loving, and caring for all the members of our family.

Camella answered…

The role of the husband and the wife in the family are to work together for the common good of the family as equal partners with our Heavenly Father to help in His work to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man. Respect, love, admiration, service, and keeping the commandments blesses the home and the family in so many ways.

Joel answered…

My wife and I have a joint role in raising our family. We have been blessed to have 8 (soon to be 9) children. We have always felt that our children have needed constant and consistant guideance in this crazy world in which we live. My wife is a wonderful example and teacher to our children and is a homemaker (she has the 24/7 career). I own a small business and work hard to pay the bills, keep constant food on the table and spend quality time with our tribe. My wife and I work jointly in the raising and rearing of our kids. Believe me....it is a full time job.

Jessamin answered…

The Prophet and the Twelve Apostles of the Church have made a Proclamation titled "The Family: A Proclamation to the World" regarding our beliefs about the role of husband and wife in the family. It states that "Husband and Wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children... By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners." As a wife and a mother, I can testify that these roles are sacred and of utmost importance. I believe that women are blessed with an innate nature to nurture. I see this in my little girl who cares for her teddy bear as if it were her own baby. Between the role of the mother and the father, children will be prepared for both family life inside the home and life out in the world and all of the spiritual and temporal needs of the family will be met.

Joel answered…

My primary role as a husband is to love God. I love Him by studying and applying His word. I have found that as my relationship with Him is strengthened, my relationship with my wife is also strengthened. God's word teaches me how to love my wife. And more than anything else, my children need me to love my wife.

Christy answered…

There are no greater roles to participate in than those of a husband and wife. These roles help us know and bless us with the opportunities to serve one another and if possible, to have children. Both roles are so important to Heavenly Father's children and when working together compliment each other in so many ways. A husband and wife are able to help their children learn to serve, grow their faith, and learn the commandments of our Heavenly Father.

Tim answered…

One of the VERY BEST things about being a member of this church is the perspective it gives you on the value of family relationships. My role as a husband it to REALLY "be there" for my wife. No strings attached! Approaching our relationship in that way has strengthened it every step of the way. I ALWAYS try to think of her FIRST and find ways to place value on the things she brings to our marriage table. She does the same thing for me. I love my wife with all of my heart and the more I give to our relationship the stronger the bond between us becomes. I cherish having this woman in my life... and eternity!

Alysen answered…

The father holds the priesthood and is the first leader, in charge of bringing in the means of physical nourishment, spiritual nourishment, and means for physical and spiritual safety ie. a home. The mother stands by the father's side in parenthood and is first to raise the children. both parents teach the children, the children listen and learn.

Emily answered…

The family is the basic building block of society! It is between husband and wife that children can be brought into the world to be loved and nurtured, and taught correct principles that will help them make the world a better place.

We believe that husbands are to be the primary providers in the home. Husbands and fathers have the privilege to watch over and protect his wife and children. Husbands also are the head of the family and preside in family matters.

The role of wife and mother is complimentary to that of her husband. Imagine what would happen if a man and woman were exactly the same! Women are born with an innate sense of how to nurture and care for others, which directly correlates to her role as the primary teacher, nurturer, and caretaker of the children.

Anna answered…

President Boyd K. Packer said, "The man was given to provide and protect; the woman was given to make it all worthwhile." That about sums it up in my opinion. :)

In "The Family: A Proclamation to the World," the First Presidency states that the husband's role is to 1) Preside, 2) Provide, and 3) Protect, and the wife is mainly responsible for the upbringing of children. No responsibility is "greater" or more important than the other. I know, being a little feminist myself, that this sometimes is misinterpreted as sexist, but it isn't. As a whole, men and women have strengths specific to each gender, and these responsibilities are established to draw on those strengths for the benefit of everyone.

I've struggled with my own qualms about this system, but I can stand as a witness that it is correct. As I've tried to live and support this balance of responsibilities, I have gained a testimony that it is designated by Heavenly Father and that it is right. He has helped me gain a testimony of every commandment each time I've stepped out in faith, and this principle is no exception. Following this guidance has helped me live a fulfilled and satisfying life.

Desiree answered…

Talking about marriage and then being in your own marriage are two very separate things. I've discovered in my years as a wife that my primary role is to love my husband and make sure he knows that. Who does the dishes and who puts the kids to bed and who balances the checkbook can all be peacefully decided on once our relationship as spouses is firmly established. Over the years, responsibilites shift and challenges vary, but if we are loving to each other, openly reevaluating personal and family goals, and staying physically close, then we are happy to do the work it takes to have a family.

Rich Price answered…

Husbands and wives are equal partners in the family. The husband's primary responsibility are to earn a living for the family, call the family to prayer and scriptural study, and preside over them in righteousness. The wife's primarily responsibility is to train and nurture the children. Both men and women are encouraged to obtain all of the education that they can.

Sarah answered…

Once married, a husband and wife become a unified couple. Their standards and goals for their future family are in harmony with one another. They work together to accomplish those goals. The husband has a special responsibility over his family, including his wife. He is the primary provider of temporal needs and wants, and has the responsibility to protect and guard his family. His wife is the primary nurturer of the children. It is in her nature to be compassionate and nurturing. But they are to work together to raise their children in accordance with the teachings of Jesus Christ and to take opportunities to express love and support to their children. They are also to express and show love for one another by serving each other and taking time to be with one another. Their example of love for one another and for Heavenly Father and His son Jesus Christ will be a tremendous influence on the lives of their children and grandchildren.
Being married is not always easy and adding children puts an extra strain on a husband and wife's relationship. Marriage takes work, but Jesus Christ knows this and through His Atonement has provided a way for each husband and wife to find the strength, encouragement, hope, love, support, and comfort they need each day to fulfill their responsibilities. It takes work, but the fun times and happiness felt in family life comes from being focused on Jesus Christ. It is possible with Him.

Robert answered…

The Hebrew description of Eve is a "helper equal to him". This is a beautiful description of the relationship between husband and wife in the church.

Daniel answered…

Husbands have the primary responsibility for providing for the spiritual and physical needs of the family. They also are responsible for protecting the family. Wives are responsible for nourishing the family and raising children. Both husbands and wives are responsible for helping each other and supporting each other. In cases where a husband or wife cannot fulfill their role, the family should do the best they can and seek help from extended family and the Church.

Zeb answered…

 Their role is to teach and lead their family by example back to their Heavenly Father.

Ann answered…

The husband is to preside and provide. The wife is responsible to nurture the children. But husband and wife help each other as equal partners in these duties. In our family, I have always made a major contribution to "providing," and my husband has always been available to assist with the "nurturing." We are truly partners, but each of us knows what we are accountable for.

Conway answered…

To be co-partners in developing and cultivating the family unit, which is the greatest and most important organization in eternity. They are equal in every way but share different resposibilities. They are to assist each other in accomplishing the things the Lord has commanded them, as individuals, as a companionship and in the family organization. They are responsible for seeking the Lords guidence in daily matters, setting the best possible example for their children to learn from and teaching their children to walk in paths of righteousness. They are to teach through love and example and are to ensure that manipulation and unrighteous dominion doesn't manifest itself within the family unit. They are to love and support each other in their journey of recieving exhaltation and eternal life. They are to become one.  

Ken answered…

A successful relationship is a team sport; it's can't succeed without the contributions of a loving couple. The love that's shared must be unconditional, given freely and without thought for reward. It's not domination of one over the other. That's not of God; our God is not a God of domination. A loving father and husband doesn't rule over his wife, he rules WITH his wife. Together, they form the foundation of family, and they set an example for their children of what a loving relationship is.

Elizabeth Ann answered…

Partners, absolutely. But with different roles. It varies from family to family, but basically if there are kids mom should be home with them if circumstances allow it.

Don answered…

My wife and I each have strengths that strengthen us as a couple and help us raise our children. She and I are definitely partners, and complement the other. We try to reach decisions together. It is not that I am always more impetuous and she is more cautious, but rather that we each have our own expertise, and depending on the situation we work things out. Twenty-six years and going strong!

Jennifer answered…

Husbands and wives should work together to provide a solid foundation for themselves as individuals and as the beginning of an eternal family unit. Communication, love, and serving together is key. Support comes mainly through encouraging each other to fulfill their shared goals, and setting the best example for your partner to follow. You cannot change the other person, but leading by your own great example provides the best influence for them to do well too.

Whatever specific roles you decide on, make sure you are in agreement and that your expectations of how those roles are to be fulfilled are made clear to each other. Check in periodically with each other as to how you are fulfilling your own role and then ask your spouse to give you some feedback to validate the efforts you are currently making, as well as offering areas for improvement. I often tell couples to practice the missionary technique of having regular companionship inventory together. At least once a month sit down together and answer the following questions: 1)how well did we accomplish our goals for this month -- individually and as a family? 2)what did we do well? 3)what could we have done better? 4)what are our goals for the coming month? 5)what resources/skills/talents will help us reach those goals

Cameron answered…

Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. "Children are an heritage of the Lord" (Psalms 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, to teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the commandments of God and to be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations.

By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners.
(The family a proclamation to the world)

Becky answered…

First and for most their role is to love each other, and to care for each other. I truly believe if this happens it will carry over to their children, and I know happiness and success will happen within the family unit. I know that when we love each other the way would want to be loved, make an effort to be aware of each others needs, try to support each other, and to put each other first the greatest respect is developed and nurtured, and a deeper love and friendship will grow. IF these things are a part of a marriage, and both husband and wife make it a part of their relationship with each other, this will be a relationship that you would want to last for forever.

Jennifer answered…

Husbands and wives are meant to work together in the family, taking on different roles to accomplish all that needs to be done for a family. Husbands are meant to provide for their families, both temporally and spiritually. They are meant to protect their families. And they are meant to preside over their families, not meaning that they dominate, but have a responsibility to lead. Wives are meant to nurture their families, especially their children. Of course, these responsibilities overlap and sometimes are traded in time of need. Sometimes a wife goes to work, sometimes a husband comforts a child in the night, sometimes life happens. But, when each spouse has their responsibility, then they can work together to accomplish them in the best fashion for their families.

Patricia Potts answered…

I was blessed to be able to stay home during our children’s growing-up years. Although I ran a few small businesses, my husband has worked and sustained us through all these years. As a young mother, I did most of the homemaking and errands. In addition to finishing his schooling and being the bread-winner, my husband helped the kids with their homework. He has also been very supportive in my interests such as writing and speaking. We will soon reach retirement and look forward to serving a mission. In our family and marriage, we strive to work as a team in reaching our goal to live eternally with our Heavenly Father.

Dean answered…

Both have to be parents, dedicated to the ideal of the family. They have to work together and truly be as one. As parents, we have to realize we have individual strengths that come naturally. We also have roles God wants us to fill because of who we are. There are things about us God knows that we ourselves are unaware of, but can discover if we follow His plan.

Hiram answered…

Family is everything. It is the source of joy in this life. Mothers and Fathers work together, uniting to create an atmosphere of love and devotion. A safe haven, where children feel completely safe, totally secure, and unquestionably loved.

As a father, my children admire, and trust me. It is my obligation to earn this trust, by living up to it. I work hard to provide for their physical well being, as well as their spiritual and emotional well being.

The most important thing that I can do as a father is to set the example for them of how a man treats his wife. By loving my wife, treating her with respect, honoring her, and modeling proper kindness, I teach my sons how they aught to treat their future wives, and I help my daughters to understand how special they are, and insure that they set the bar appropriately high as they search out their own future spouses.

Sarah answered…

I firmly believe that husbands and wives have very distinct roles. By nature men and women are different. Heavenly Father created us this way to compliment and balance each other out. The world today would have us believe that men and women must be equal. If you look at the true meaning of equal, this phrase is impossible. I will never be a man. I am a woman with traits and characteristics only a wife and mother can have. I am so thankful to be a woman to be the nurturer and teacher in my home. I am so thankful for my husbands willingness to preside and lead our family.

Ronald answered…

My wife Jacinta and I have learned that as we study the scriptures together as a family, we can see the progress the the Lord intended us to experience. This is an amazing aspect very apparent as we strive to follow the council of the Savior. We urge each of you to set aside time to feel this wonderful event develop in your life and in the lives of your families.

Rachel answered…

Husbands and wives should work together to provide for their family. They need to be equal partners in meeting the physical, emotional, and spiritual needs of their children. The main duty of the husband is to work and provide for the physical needs of his family. He is also the leader of the family. The role of the wife is to nurture and care for her children.