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Think before speaking or acting
Think before speaking or acting

Family disagreements are normal, but emotions may lead to words or actions that we regret. Thinking before reacting can help family members calm themselves and find positive ways to express feelings.

Here are some ideas to try:

  • Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Imagine that you are the person who is about to hear your words. How would you feel? Remember, children often hear the tone of voice more than actual words.
  • Take a “time-out.” When you are about to say something negative or harmful, take a step back and calm down. Get away from the situation until tempers have calmed.



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