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I’m a single father whose greatest blessing and joy is the love and friendship shared with my two sons, ages 11 and 15. I interface with talented and interesting individuals in an industry that defines fashion. My work, though I rarely refer to it as such, requires creativity and logistical balance that can be extremely challenging but equally rewarding to my competitive nature. I’m rejuvenated by nature and have the unique opportunity of participating in expeditions and conservation efforts around the world.
Foremost I see my relationship with the “human family” and the commonalities that unite us. I’ve observed that within any “ism,” there are some who need to believe they are right, while others are wrong. I do not envision being right or wrong as our purpose - far more important is learning to sacrifice our own will to that of a loving and merciful Creator, and by so doing, finding the strength and ability to love others as ourselves. A germane belief in Mormonism, which resonates with me, is that of a Godhead consisting of three distinct personages being one in purpose, whose counsel is conveyed through a living prophet and twelve apostles. While unable to comprehend the majesty of His nature, I view God as a very real and eternal Father whose greatest gift to me personally, aside from my existence, is being able to make my own eternal choices guided by the perfect example and self-sacrifice of his son - the Savior Jesus Christ. Modern day revelation brings clarity to the importance of my life and helps me to understand my personal relationship with God. A restored connection between an empathetic Savior who preached his gospel and established His church in the meridian of time, with a current day organization supported by the same resurrected Deity at its center is all important. This magnificent condescension, whereby the Redeemer took upon himself the frailties of a mortal body to obtain a perfect empathy for our physical challenges, provides a supernal compass to help guide my choices. From a youth I was taught that I could approach God directly, the same as did a young boy by the name of Joseph Smith in 1820. I believe that the young man did in fact converse with God and his Son, and that his prayer like those of prophets before him was answered. The result nearly two-hundred years later, is a living and functioning restoration of the original. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints is not a church for Mormons - rather, an organization restored to help serve every man, woman and child who hope for direct and heavenly intercession of priesthood blessings, guidance from divine laws, and clear communication through ongoing revelation. Especially reassuring to me, is that a spiritual witness of these truths can be obtained if one sincerely prays and carefully studies the Book of Mormon, the Old and New Testaments, and revelations given in our own day.
Harmony begins with one’s self, then emanates to individuals and ultimately the group. Setting aside and committing to personal time for contemplation and reflection on what we most desire for ourselves and our families, is tantamount to harmony in the home. Such an investment yields a lifeline and helpful perspective in challenging times. A home needs rules, if conveyed clearly and administered in a fair and consistent manner, the family will have a safe harbor from unwanted external influences. My father had a rare virtue, which served him particularly well in dealing with crisis as opposed to asserting his subjective thoughts or previous opinions, he first perceived others. When I make this effort, and place myself in my son’s shoes, I’m not focused on myself or looking for personal affronts rather, I’m able to handle situations far more objectively and for the betterment of the family. Personal time and positive assurance given by a parent to his or her individual children promotes self-esteem and the understanding that the child is important. In order to adjust to the constantly changing dynamics within my family, I’ve found that holding individual and family councils with my boys is vital for our communication and overall wellbeing. It’s a particularly rewarding experience on a personal level. Within these councils a format should be agreed upon whereby each of us can expresses our thoughts and concerns without reprisal. A harmonious outcome may not always be the immediate result but if the process is repeated and given earnest attention, a family will begin to communicate and in time a more peaceful and loving environment will exist.
My faith emanates from an innate sense of belonging, fostered by loving parents and caring mentors. I live it for myself, but that choice is bolstered by the keen stewardship I feel for my sons. It is strengthened by the natural goodness evidenced in the cultures and ethnic groups that I’ve had the privilege of knowing - and from generations that respect what their ancestors sought to leave behind, and who sacrifice to ensure the same and more for their progeny. Often times, personal mistakes are my greatest teachers and counselors. As I grow older my faith is renewed with the continual ebbs and flows of joy and hardships. These experiences cause me to reflect on present as well as previously unnoticed blessings and new challenges are met with hope and a desire to judge less, while focusing on what I can change about myself.