How can we develop greater harmony in our homes?

Megan Cosgriff answered…

There are many ways in which we can keep harmony in our homes such as daily prayers, both as a family unit and as individuals, daily scripture study and by loving one another. If we invite Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ into our homes and our lives by living a modest and chaste lifestyle, then we will find our homes filled with harmony.

Damon answered…

I try to be the best husband and father I can be. To do that I need to learn more and relearn things about how I can be the best follower of Christ. Just reading scriptures, saying prayers, and listening to inspired things (songs, talks, etc.) helps me to turn my mind to higher purposes than most media (e.g., T.V., radio, etc.). By turning my mind to higher things, I can invite the spirit of the Lord in my heart for the day, and I usually react to my family in a better way.

Umeka answered…

I think we can develop greater harmony in our homes by continually striving to be more Christlike. That in itself can seem like a daunting task but I think it's important to take things one step at a time so as to not overwhelm youself. First start family prayers, you can start with just one a day if necessary and then add them as you see fit. Have family scripture reading on a daily basis. Have weekly activities as a family. I think as you begin to do more spiritual things as a family the harmony will be a direct consequence of it. Just by doing these things in our home we have even noticed a difference in our 2 year old!

Ashley answered…

Harmony in my home has always been a challenge. I live with my mom and my step-father and four of my siblings. For a long time, I struggled with the idea that my family was different than other, "traditional" Latter-day Saint families. With divorced parents and a "mixed" family, family closeness was and continues to be an issue for us. The answer I received to my many prayers was that I was only accountable for what I could do, but that I could be doing more. I started to spend more time with my family, and consistently told them I loved them. At college I make special efforts to talk to my family, and every week I send my siblings cards bearing my testimony of gospel principles that I feel apply to their lives. I can't do everything, and it's not my job to do everything, but I have seen the love increase in my family. In time I will marry in the temple to a worthy priesthood holder, and we will start our own eternal family, and raise our children in a celestial environment. For now, I'm doing what I can...and it is enough!

Ginger answered…

Raising children has to be one of the greatest challenges I have ever faced in my life, but it comes with great rewards. As in any other home, my children quarrel and disagree from time to time and I have been known to raise my voice on occasion when times of stress are high. I've come to recognize the importance of quality time spent individually and collectively as a whole. I have learned that children want order and discipline, but they also need lots of time and love. When we have a routine and fair consequences are enforced we seem to get along better and have fewer disciplinary problems. We also make sure to recognize the good things about our children as often as we can. It helps that my husband and I are best friends and rarely have disagreements. We try to show our kids by example how to treat each other by the way my husband and I treat each other. We have also found that having regular family prayer helps our home feel more at peace and less contentious.

Matthew answered…

In our home, as we have raised our daughters -- the oldest is about to finish the eighth grade -- we have focused heavily on tone of voice. From as early as our daughters could communicate with each other, and as they have communicated with us, we have nipped in the bud any conversation or comment that has a disrespectful or unkind tone. As a result, quarrels are few. We have expected other children who visit our home to maintain the same standards of respect that we expect of our own children.

The computers in our home are in public spaces, rather than secreted away in peoples' bedrooms.

Jenni answered…

Pray together, read scriptures together, spend time together. Talk to each other. Don't so distracted in life that you don't have time to be with your family. Support each other, and love each other.

Dave answered…

By developing faith in Jesus Christ and studying His gospel. My wife and I try to study the scriptures together each night and we pray together as well. By doing so we are more kind and loving to each other because we try to follow the example of Jesus Christ. We also are united in our belief. We share the things we learn with each other and we grow together. The gospel is an excellent way to unite the family.

Charity answered…

I have noticed that the music we listen to has a HUGE effect on our boys. When they start to get aggressive or angry, putting on calming music- or at least music with a positive, upbeat energy- can make all the difference in the world.

Heath answered…

I think that we develop greater harmony in our homes through focussing our lives on the Savior. If our homes are based on the teachings and life of Jesus Christ, then those in our home will want to be like Christ. And As we all try to grow closer to Jesus Christ then we all grow closer to each other, and we are all happier!

Mike answered…

By practicing charity, as taught by the Savior.

Tessa answered…

I think a few things that I hope I have in my home and that I have felt in other peoples home is first pictures of Christ in every room especially where the TV is. Also a picture of the temple, it is a reminder of Eternity and all the blessings we can have. I think playing good clean music in our home invites the spirit and gives a sense of peace for all that live in the home. I also love quotes throughout the house because they are constant reminders on how to be better people. And one of the biggest is family dinner and family prayers. Its brings us back together after being surrounded and bombarded by worldly things.

Tim answered…

I believe harmony in our homes all begins with Christ. If all members of the family are followers of Jesus Christ and adopt his teachings of Love of God and Love of Fellow Men there will be great love and harmony in every home. It is the selfish desires of the individual that results in discord and contempt.

Julie answered…

As a blended family, harmony was something we needed right from the start. The best thing we ever did with our kids was read scriptures & pray as a family daily. It became part of our evening routine, even when a parent was away or working we would get them on speaker phone. It seems like such a small thing but it brought the greatest rewards because it invited the Holy Spirit into our home.

Bryan answered…

Music has been a wonderful influence for peace and harmony in my home. Thanks to my musically inclined wife, all the children have been blessed with skills in and a love of music. As I write this I'm listening to a daughter play and sing beautiful songs. It brings a great spirit into our home.

Crysi answered…

I think the biggest problem we face in today's world is that we are far too BUSY to spend time together. It is amazing to me how easy it is to be away from the home. Part of harmony means spending enough time to help out in the home. Simplify. Families are central to Heavenly Father's plan, and the best way to stay close, is to BE close. Serving each other out of a sincere desire and love for one another also helps us to feel a bond and create the harmony many of us are starving for.

Jeff answered…

I remember when I was growing up as a child that my family spent Monday nights together. We would start with a prayer and butcher what we wanted to call a song. We would talk about family business and vacations etc. We then had a spiritual message and an activity. Following the activity we would close with a prayer by blessing refreshments (brownies or rice crispy treats usually) and then eat up. This experience is something that happens in Mormon homes all over the world and is called FHE ( Family Home Evening).

I know that when my family forgot to have it our weeks were full of arguments and frustration. I know that a simple task or time to spend together is what brings families closer together.

Another way that my family's home achieved greater harmony on our home was by having dinner at the dinner table all together, or at least whoever was home, and discussing our day.

Melanie answered…

Like every relationship there are daily challenges that we face. The great thing is having the example of the Savior as a guide to how we should treat and respect each other. This allows us to focus not on who is right or wrong, but rather to ask ourselves questions like - what would the Lord want us to do? How can we work together? What do we need to change personally in order to be a better companion?

Les answered…

Service projects together - as a family. I remember one Christmas Dad and Mom made some Christmas goodies and we all learned a funny little Christmas jingle. We knocked on relatives doors, marched past their "hello" and sat in a circle on their living room floor. We sang our little ditty, jumped up and marched out leaving our Christmas goodies sitting there on the living room floor. We had aunts and uncles call us the next day to verify that it was indeed our family that had barged in, sang and escaped. It was fun and funny and memorable.

Jeff answered…

When we read the scriptures, pray, and attend church as families, we will be able to look at our lives and relationships and see areas where we are doing well and others where we could improve. If we set goals of how to improve ourselves individually and as families we will be motivated by our love for each other and united toward a common goal. As we encourage and support each other and work together we will become more Christlike, our relationships will improve, and our homes will be filled with love.

Anna answered…

Unconditional Love!!! With all the noise in our world today I find that the more we keep the love through the Spirit of God in our personal lives we will be able to share that with our spouses, children, and those around us. To feel God's love I dedicate my early mornings to scripture study, prayer, and meditation. By getting up earlier in the mornings and preparing myself to see my husband and children I can then choose to be happy, pray for extra strength when I don't feel good either spiritually or physically, and try to create spiritually in my mind what my day will look like.

Once I'm prepared it's a lot easier to prepare my children for their day by starting with a simple family devotional. We use music, prayer, reading God's word, and discussing real life issues that are going on in their lives. Praying together is powerful! God's love is always present when we carefully prepare.

Since I haven't always followed this pattern I've seen a huge difference in my family's life when we do!!!

Kevin answered…

 We can all have greater harmony in our homes by centering what happens there around Christ and His teachings. His teachings can bring families closer together. His teachings are those of love, peace, gentleness, and serving others. The gospel of Jesus Christ has blessed me and my family so very much.

Jessica answered…

When we are learning about God and applying Christ's teachings in our homes and lives we get closer to God but also with our families. When we apply Christ's teaching in our lives we want to love others and show that love. We don't want to hurt others around us. When we want to be more like Christ we become loving and charitable as He was. We're not perfect and still get upset with others but for the most part there is more harmony when we want to be more like Christ. I think one thing that helps my husband and I is the picture of Christ that is hung up in our apartment. I feel like Christ is there and it helps us show our love for each other. We also pray together in the morning and at night. I love praying because we are talking to Heavenly Father about our worries or the things we are thankful for and it allows us to see how much love we have for one another.

Richard Ingalls answered…

I am of the firm belief that talking regularly to our children, doing things with them, and spending quality time with them are key elements. The prophets of the latter days have taught us that if we pray with our children, read scriptures with our children, and spend a family night with them each week, where we do not let the cares of the world interrupt us, we will be blessed to have strength in our families.

Will those things make all bad things in families disappear? No, but they build a foundation upon which we can build a fortress of strength that can help us work through trials and challenges in such a way that we can call upon help and strength from Heavenly Father to address problems and issues that come up.

Brent answered…

This takes preparation. Regardless of how busy our schedules get we always set aside time for "Family Home Evening." We dedicate every Monday night as family night. We have an opening prayer, a lesson, a game, some type of music or song, snack and closing prayer. Each member of the family takes turns as to what they need to plan. We usually start family home evening after dinner. We sometimes just spend quality time together. This may be on a family walk or jumping on the trampoline. I believe it's important for my families to pray together, play together and have scripture study together.
We also have family prayers. "A family that prays together stays together." Just before bedtime we all gather in one of the bed rooms and have a family prayer. Some nights each member of the family prays and other nights only one of us prays. My daughter keeps track of the schedule.
When we first started family prayer, it was hard. Everyone was tired and cranky. Even dad. But after a few weeks we all look foreword to gathering on one of the beds. I love family prayer.

Sonya answered…

We have family home evening where we spend time as a family learing more about Our Heavely Father and his teachings. We teach our children from an early age about God. We believe in family prayer. Children follow your example, you much live what you teach. Take time for each other, have your meals without the TV going, talk with your children and spouse, let them know you care and are there for them.

Risto answered…

We spend one night a week dedicated solely to improving our family. We pray together and read scriptures daily. These unifying activities build a strong bond with my wife.

Linda H. answered…

Living with an unbelieving family is sometimes very hard. I try to set a good example and not cause any problems. I try to be helpful and when the opportunity arises, to introduce truths which will be helpful to my family. Sometimes I am successful and other times not. For example, I have warned my teenaged granddaugther about watching some of today's television shows and movies. I tell her about a person I knew who practiced some of the immoral things seen on TV and movies, and how miserable he was when he died. I have also talked to my oldest son about letting the younger boys watch R rated movies. He has been supportive of my advice.

Mike Tompkins answered…

Jesus wants so much that we can be happy and united as families. I have a wife and a toddler and what strengthens us more that anything else is reading God's word together and praying as a family. I gives me so much confidence and relief to know that my son has the most reliable source of wisdom and that he knows where to find it: by praying and studying the scriptures.

Christina answered…

By not sweating the small things. By reigning in our anger and being compassionate and forgiving to one another. These are not things that I am perfect at doing by any means. However, when I am able to harness my anger and not get upset at my children or my husband when they do things that are annoying but not life threatening, we get along much better.

I have heard it said that life is 1% what happens to us and 99% of how we react to it... make sure you always try to react in a way that is in accordance with the Savior's teachings, especially in the home and you will cause harmony and happiness to occur there. Fighting and bickering is not worth the time it takes, mention kindly the things that are done wrong, only if they really do matter and if the comments really are constructive, not destructive. Take a time out if you have to, but do your best to avoid anger and fighting and your home will be a happy place.

Shawn Michael answered…

 One of the most important things we can do to have greater harmony in our homes is to teach our families about Jesus Christ and his teachings an how we can live those in our lives. We try to read our scriptures daily as a family to learn about the Gospel.

Valerie Jean answered…

This proclamation is a wonderful tutorial on how we can develop greater harmony in our homes. It was read by President Gordon B. Hinckley as part of his message at the General Relief Society Meeting held September 23, 1995, in Salt Lake City, Utah. (Note:The Relief Society is the organization of female church members ages 18 and older. The Relief Society was founded by the Prophet Joseph Smith on March 17, 1842, in Nauvoo, Illinois. In the days of its founding, it had two main purposes: to provide relief for the poor and needy and to bring people to Christ. The organization continues today, staying true to those original guiding principles as women in the Relief Society meet together on Sunday and in other settings as needed. It is one of the largest female organizations in the world.)

The First Presidency and Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

We, the First Presidency and the Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.

All human beings—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny. Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.

In the premortal realm, spirit sons and daughters knew and worshiped god as their eternal father and accepted His plan by which His children could obtain a physical body and gain earthly experience to progress toward perfection and ultimately realize his or her divine destiny as an heir of eternal life. The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally.

The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.

We declare the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan.

Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalms 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, to teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the commandments of God and to be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations.

The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.

We warn that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.

We call upon responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.
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Paul answered…

I remember going on a family trip to Washington, D. C. when I was a kid. We went to a bunch of famous places, but the thing that I remember most is playing "Kick-the-Can" in the trees by the Lincoln Memorial. We liked it so much that we skipped the Smithsonian to go back and play again later in the week. Spending time together is so much more important than what you actually do. I think that's why my family gets along...most of the time. :

Shelby answered…

I can help there to be greater harmony in my home when I choose to be a peacemaker. If I decide to let little things go and treat my family the way they should be treated, everyone is in a happier mood. A family that communicates and prays together stays together.

Brianne answered…

I like to listen to church music in our home and in our cars. I do not watch things on TV that would take away the spirit. I have pictures of Christ, the temple, and some of my favorite scripture decorating my home to remind me what is important. We know that the home is the second most sacred place on earth. It is important for my family and me to have a refuge from the outside world where we can feel the spirit.

Sarah answered…

One way our family is trying to develop greater harmony in our home is by having family scripture time.This year we are focusing on one scripture, so we read it every night along with other scriptures. It is found in Mosiah 4:14-15 in the Book of Mormon:

14- And ye will not suffer (allow) your children that they go hungry, or naked; neither will ye suffer that they transgress the God, and fight and quarrel one with another, and serve the devil, who is the master of sin, or who is the evil spirit which hath been spoken of by our fathers, he being an enemy to all righteousness.
15- But ye will teach them to walk in the ways of truth and soberness; ye will teach them to love one another, and to serve one another.

Then we sing the song "I am Trying to be Like Jesus" :

I'm trying to be like Jesus;
I'm following in His ways.
I'm trying to love as He did,
in all that I do and say.
At times I am tempted to make a wrong choice,
but I try to listen as the still small voice whispers,
"Love one another as Jesus loves you.
Try to show kindness in all that you do.
Be gentle and loving in deed and in thought,
for these are the things Jesus taught."
I'm trying to love my neighbor;
I'm learning to serve my friend.
I watch for the day of gladness
when Jesus will come again.
I try to remember the lessons He taught.
Then the Holy Spirit enters into my thoughts saying,
"Love one another as Jesus loves you.
Try to show kindness in all that you do.
Be gentle and loving in deed and in thought,
for these are the things Jesus taught."

After we had been doing this for a week my 5 year old daughter started praying to know how to love and serve our family. It has been amazing to see how she recognizes the good things that others do for her as an act of love and how she is more determined to serve others as well. I know that the peace of the scriptures and the gospel has brought more harmony to my home. 

Kelsey answered…

I think the best way to develop harmony in our homes is by spending time together and growing closer. I have grown up with 4 older brothers, who at times could be a pain when we were younger, but other times it was the best. My mom always had a saying for me growing up refering to my brothers "They only tease you because they love you." And how true that saying was. Now as I have gotten older, I have come to realize that it was those times when my family went on vacations, played in the backyard, went camping, hiking, or the times when my brothers would let me play with them that the bond and happiness in our home grew stronger. It's realizing the family that our Heavenly Father has blessed us with is meant for us, and that we are there to help each other grow, to help be a strength and guide for each other. Learning from my parents was also a way that us kids were able to grow closer, following their example of going to church, of actively fulfilling callings that we are given within the church. That when times of trial happen within the family, that we are each there when support is needed the most. Harmony within my family's home as I have grown up, is what I believe has brought me closer to my siblings and parents today then ever before.

Rob answered…

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Derrick answered…

My daughter started asking me the big question in life; why are we here? where are we going? Is there a God? she was only 7 at the time (very smart girl, gets it from her mother) The right answers are here in the church and I was able to help her answer these important questions. Because of these simple question I have a family that is closer and united and looking forward to being together forever (One of the answers to the questions above)

Darren answered…

As a father of five, I have pondered this question many times. My wife and I have found that the application of the following two principles has brought greater peace and harmony to our home. Maybe they can help you and your family too. First, have family prayer and teach your children that when it is their turn to pray to pray for specific family members and what they might need at the moment. It melted my heart when our youngest prayed that his older sister wouldn't have to throw up anymore and would feel better. Second, teach your children that whenever they succeed in anything that their success is "ONE FOR THE FAMILY". This gets them thinking in terms of the family's success and suppresses the competitive spirit that often drives family quarrels.

Rexley answered…

Life is certainly an andventure story for each of us and like every adventure story, there is always elements of actions both natural and unnatural, there is times of slowness, setting the stage for yet another storyline to climax and then declimax. It would be unrealistic to say that harmony is never lost. It is tragic when the circumstances cause tension and create havoc to the once comfortable and peaceful sanctuary called Home. Sometimes the members of our families, while in the pursuit of certain goals strain the relationships they have with others. This can easily pull the home and those dwelling inside of it apart. The Gospel of Jesus Christ is remarkable for the family because as soon as someone relates it to a mode of happiness then they have a clear and unchangeable goal to aim for, and as every member follows the path of the savior through his gospel they will be walking the same path as those in their family. That is how we achieve greater harmony in our homes and that is how the climaxes in our story are resolved in a way where the declimax is a happy one.

Kim answered…

This may sound trite but we can develop greater harmony in our homes by treating our spouses and children with mutual respect.

I think that it is especially important that children be allowed to express their feelings. Parents have a right to make sure that this expression is done in a way that is not loud or threatening but they should be allowed this expression. This makes the children feel loved and also helps parents to better understand their children and the children to understand each other.

I think it is also important that families regularly spend time together at meals and working and playing together.

Signe. answered…

We can develop harmony at home by setting the example of love and patience. Praying together, crying together, laughing together, being frustrated (and working through it) together, all build family unity. And when there is a sense of unity, the harmony follows. We are all working together to reach the same end goal, to return to our Father in Heaven and Jesus Christ.

Sherlyn answered…

When we treat our family as politely as we would our friends or an acquaintance, it breeds love and respect.

Jamie answered…

I think that order to develop harmony in our homes is by first learning to serve one another within our families. Once we can learn to serve one another in our families. I think that our families will have a greater love for each other. Not only a greater love for each other, but also an appreciation. Service doesn't have to be just doing chores around the house, but willingly do another member of the household's chore for them or just some random act of kindness. I had great grandmother whose favorite phrase was "Kill 'em with kindness!" I think that really holds true in today's society. If we are kind to each other in our own homes, then it will show. In Matthew 5:16, we read, "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven."

Ruedigar answered…

Harmony in the home isn't achieved over night. You don't wake up one day and say, "Wow! We now have harmony!" It's something that takes time and effort, just like everything else that is worthwhile in this life. I've learned harmony from parents who are loving, who spend time talking with and listening to me. I've learned it from siblings who do not yell at each other or fight. I've learned it from a family who cares about me as an individual and wants me to succeed. What I've learned about harmony from my own family is that harmony isn't about me. Harmony is about everyone. I'm not here in my family singing a solo; rather, we are working together to create something beautiful.
Knowing that we can live together for ever, not being separated by that vast chasm of death, helps us in our efforts. Jesus Christ has prepared a way for families to live together forever, not just in this life. If that is the case, I want to build my relationships, not destroy them. I want to forgive my siblings, not hate them. I want to honor my parents, not disobey them. My family is everything to me. I value my family more than anything. I want my family to last, so I need to do my part to ensure that I am not damaging relationships. If I had a car that was worth millions of dollars, I would not drive it, park it, or treat it carelessly. I would think twice about doing anything that I might later regret, which would damage the car. I would put in the effort to maintain the vehicle. If I would do such things for a car, something that I can keep for this life only, would I not do the same for my family, whom I value much more than a car and whom I can live with forever? Of Course!
Harmony in the home is based on humility, service, gratitude and most importantly love. Nothing means more to me than when I fear my parents tell me that they love me, and this they do often. There is no substitute for love in the home, and with love, so comes service, gratitude and humility. As we strive to show our love, and express it vocally, we will truly begin to reach a beautiful harmony within the walls of our home.

Diane answered…

We can develop greater harmony in our homes by thinking of others and how we can help and serve them. We can support each other by attending activities in which they participate such as sporting events, or involvement with music. We can help each other when there are times that personal responsibilites are overwhelming or stressful. The golden rule 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you', should apply to families as well as friends and associates. Family activities where we can all be together having a good time help to foster friendship and fond memories that will bring families closer together. Communication is also a key. The ability to communicate without argueing or pointing out each others faults is essential to harmony. As the family talks together to resolve problems we can better understand each person's feelings and why they act the way they do. Religious study also helps keep harmony. As we study scripture and talk about the blessings of Jesus Christ in our lives, we feel closer to each other. One of the best ways to keep harmony is to pray together. As we express gratitude for each other and pray for specific needs of each member of our family, we become united in wanting each to be happy and successful.

Matthew Huss answered…

Greater harmony comes from striving each day to live the Gospel of Jesus Christ and serving in His church. We try to make Christ the center and focal point of our lives and worship Him as often as we are able.

Kiley answered…

I was not raised in a harmonious home. There was constant turmoil and fighting. As a youth, I remember receiving an answer to a sorrowful prayer, while pleading for my family wounds to be healed, that although my current family would never be healed, I would have a chance to choose what type of home I wanted to have as a mother. I have been married for 8 years to a man who isn't perfect, but tries hist best to serve his family and Heavenly Father with diligence and care. I have to choose everyday to invite the Spirit into my home with prayer and scripture study and especially with how I choose to talk to my children. If your home is in turmoil, you might want to look at what is in it. What type of music are you listening to? What type of television shows are you watching? How is your communication with your children and your spouse? How is your communication with God? All these questions and more can lead you to finding greater harmony in your home. There will never be perfect harmony, because we are not capable of being perfect in these times. But, we can be greater and always choosing to be better. I chose to be better and because of it I live in a happier and more peaceful home than I could have imagined.

Murray answered…

By taking time to serve our families, our homes become happier and full of love. When I take time to think about what the members of my family need and then serve them based on those needs, I notice that our home is a much happier place. When everyone in the family serves each other, love and harmony increase and each member is much more successful than they could be on their own.

Ryan answered…

We Develop great harmony in our homes through the blessings of the gospel. We participate in many family activities such Family Home Evening, a time for a spiritual lesson,games, and planning the events to come in the family every week. we also focus on spending time with one another and enjoying each others company

Michael Fuhriman answered…

Having raised 8 children I have learned a lot about how to have greater harmony in our homes. First, make sure that you love your spouse and show it in the home. Second, teach of Jesus Christ and show your love and appreciation for Him. Third, read the scriptures and pray as a family every day. Forth, attend all your church meetings and serve faithfully in your church callings. Fifth, teach your children about choices and consequences. Make sure that they understand the difference between guessing and choosing. Choosing involves knowledge where guessing does not. Give them knowledge of options and their consequences. Sixth, give time to the family in general as well as special time to each individual in the family. Seventh, don't be selfish. Love as Jesus loves. Eighth, express your love in word and deed, consistently. One can't go too far wrong if ones does these 8 things.

Jay answered…

Harmony in our home comes with balance in our lives. Many of us get caught up in worldly things that don't bring harmony into the home. Take the time to enjoy the things that will truly bring everlasting memories.

Zachary answered…

As we follow the council of the living prophets and apostles, we will find that our families will be brought closer together and closer to God. The prophets will never lead us astray. They are the mouthpiece of the Lord on the earth today.

I know that to be true!

Julie answered…

When I moved into my new apartment, one of the first things I did was have it dedicated. I had the bishop come over and give a prayer to protect our dwelling from evil and malice, to keep it safe and in harmony. I try very hard to keep the spirit here in my home, to make it a place of peace and refuge. It is not a perfect practice, but I try very hard to have Family Home Evening every Monday Night, to have prayer and do things that are in Harmony with the teachings of Jesus Christ. I want to build my life up so that it will be easier for me to implement the same practices in my home when I find that special someone and share a family with them. I feel that keeping the influence of Christ and Heavenly Father in your home helps greatly to keep harmony there. I have pictures hung of the Savior around the house and of course like I said before, Family Home Evening. Family Prayer and personal prayer is important, keeping close to the scriptures and listening to the Spirit.

Lindsay answered…

I that these children who have been paced in my care are my Heavenly Father's children. I want to raise them how He would. I know that as I seek His guidance, He will direct me. This can only be done when there is love and harmony in the home. I know that through prayer, uplifting music, and building family relationships a greater peace and harmony may exist in the home.

Diane answered…

I have 2 rules and it works very well in the home, as well as in the work place and elsewhere. #1 Love, Don't Judge. #2 Choose not to be offended. If we abided by these two rules we'd have less divorce and happier families. It is not easy and it is a daily effort to be a peacemaker. I need to tell myself many times, to get a ladder and get over it, and to just let things go. The past is in the past, forgive NOW! Don't put it off. Even if they don't say I am sorry, even if it was their fault. It'll only fester and bring more grief. This is how I say it.. Sad, hurt, mad, irritated, frustrated.... Forgive, let it go... ahhh peace! Enough said. The "great 8" is another way to succeed with a happier marriage and happy home. Personal prayer, family prayer, personal scripture study, family scripture study, spouse prayer & study, family night every week (a night just for the family to do something together), financial stablity (work to be debt free). These 8 things will produce a happier home. It is hard at first, but after it is a habit it is so easy. I like to add regular date night, ie. alone time as a couple to that list. You must plan it, or it will just not happen. If your marriage is strong, your family will be strong. If your children see that their parents love each other, they will feel secure in their world. They need parents that are on the same page, and together in all things.

Tabatha answered…

Every family strives to have harmony in their homes. While all families have disagreements, it is important to ensure that family members discuss concerns, feelings and problems in a Christlike way. Parents who use corporal punishment or shout and yell at their children in an effort to get results, will only see further disharmony. Taking time to understand another family member's point of view can cause us to ponder how he or she feels and then respond in a way that would be pleasing to Jesus Christ. Our brother Jesus Christ is the greatest example of how we should treat one another. How we react to disagreements is sometimes more important than the resolution of the problem.

Carol answered…

We can develop greater harmony in our homes as we learn what our purpose on earth is. As each of us search for our identity and reason for being here, life becomes clearer and more organized. I am a wife and mother. My responsibilities are within the walls of my own home as I clean, bake, teach, tend, mind, obey, love, work, sew, knit, crochet, plant, and do a multitude of activities that bless my life and the lives of the children under the guidance of my husband. I am free from worrying about bills, stress of working outside the home and dealing with a harsh difficult world in a tough economy. I love being a woman and protected by a loving caring husband who treats me as an equal and cares tenderly for me.

My husband is the breadwinner and knows what his place is as well. He takes on the world to provide our family with peace, comfort, safety, love and our 'heaven on earth' on our home is a wonderful balance of two people working well together who know who they are, what they are doing here on earth, what their responsibilities are and what it is all for.

Harmony is when like-minded individuals decide to combine efforts to achieve a common goal. There are times when our responsibilities expand or need adjusting to meet specific needs, but for the most part, we co-exist peacefully because we know what is expected of us and we are happy together.

Neal answered…

There is one thing that brings my home harmony, anytime my wife and I are about to get into a fight because of a misunderstanding or something, we both decide to stop, calm down, breathe, say a prayer, and then make sure we feel our Father in Heaven's presence peace and not be angry while talking it out. As soon as there is anger we stop our conversation and decide on a better time to discuss. In the moment of anger we go get ice cream or go for a run.

Corey Jensen answered…

As a member of the Church I always hear in Church lessons and messages that as we draw closer to the Savior, we will draw closer together as a family. I know this is true. The times that my wife and I are doing the things our prophets have asked are the times that we are most united. Sometimes it is challenging to work around schedules, but it has been a great blessing to have family prayer and scripture study each day. I also love that the prophets have encouraged families to participate together in "wholesome recreational activities." I know that this helps in building family relationships and creating a spirit of harmony within the family. Above all if our families are doing everything they can to serve one another and put Christ at the foundation of their homes, we will have the spirit of Christ with us and our families.

Thomas answered…

I live in a home with seven children ranging in age from 14 to 2. It can be challenging to keep our home in harmony. We use two key strategies to help invite peace and unity into our home.

First, we spend one night a week together as a family. We use this time for gospel study, singing, praying and playing games. We work to let every member of the family participate and feel a part. The participation can be as simple as leading the song or offering a prayer. This helps us to learn gospel principles and to grow closer as a family.

Second, we spend 15 minutes each morning reading the Book of Mormon together. This book invites a heavenly spirit into our home. It also helps unite us as a family and turn our minds and hearts to God.

We do other things that help create harmony in our home but we feel these are the two most important activities.

Kathy answered…

By keeping our eyes on Jesus, who is the Author and Finisher of our faith, and by listening moment-by-moment to the gentle whisperings of the Holy Spirit, it is possible to promote harmony in our homes. The Lord knows the ways around and through the problems we all face. As we listen to His gentle Spirit, He, who is our Counsellor, will guide us into true peace and love. And the Lord will be free to work and bless our lives.

Lisa answered…

Daily family prayer. Reading from the scriptures as a family and discussing the principles learned. One on one personal interviews with our children. Open communication. Being united as parents in the goals we have for our family. But my favorite of all... Nightly mandatory 4 second hugs! Each night after family prayer each of us gets a 4 second hug from every member of the family. It is something that we look forward to each day (even the teenagers!) and know that no matter how hard a day we've had we will always be able to end it with our mandatory family hugs!

Bill answered…

In our home (and we're certainly not experts!) we have simplified our set of rules to three:

1. Obey. Obedience is required in all circumstances. As President Kimball said - I have learned that when the Lord commands, just do it. There are blessings that are attendant with obedience. Our children have learned that obedience brings joy and peace, while disobedience brings disharmony and a reduction of privilege.

2. Respect. Respect is divided into two corollaries: love and appreciate. This is so important for children to learn, but it is also vital for parents to demonstrate towards each other and towards their children. Respect for my children means that I take time with them to help, teach, and comfort. I explain things to them about why I am requiring a certain behavior. And they, in turn, learn trust, patience, and peace.

3. Have fun. Without fun, life is hardly worth living. It is the fulfillment of the first two rules, however, that activates this rule. Without obedience and respect there can be no fun. We have a lot of fun together as a family.

Lauren answered…

I believe the world has enough negative stuff - enough hard stuff - enough scary stuff - that homes should be a shelter from all that. I'm so grateful to my siblings and parents because they make my home a safe, comfortable, loving, strengthening place. However. They can also be frustrating people. So I have to be loving and forgiving. I'm not saying I always am that way... I mean, I'm not Jesus. But I can try. The patience is always worth it. I never say to myself, "I wish I would have yelled at her." Instead, I'm always glad in hindsight when I've been patient and forgiving when my sister takes all the hot shower water or my brother eats all my favorite cereal. (We have bigger issues too, but the same stuff applies.) At college, homes are different. My five roommates and I come from six different families. We make our house a home the same way - kindness and understanding.

Tim answered…

The Savior said that the two greatest commandments are to love the Lord thy God with all thine heart. and the second is to love thy neighbor as thy self. The reason that these are the two greatest commandments is because all of the other commandments that our Heavenly Father has given us can be traced back to love. Whenever we commit sin we are being selfish because we are putting ourselves either before others or before God. What makes our homes special is the love that we feel when we are there. It makes us feel comfortable and welcome, it makes us want to be there. If everyone in our families loved each other perfectly then there wouldn't be any problems because no one would do anything that would hurt one another. Unfortunately we are all imperfect, we all have our flaws and we all make mistakes, and these mistakes can cause friction between us and our family members. Our Savior Jesus Christ is the only person who has lived on this earth who was perfect and had this perfect love. While we cannot accomplish this perfection in this life, His teachings push us to strive to be like him and to get as close to his example as we can. As we strive to be like him, as we strive to have this perfect love that he had we will cease to do things that will harm our families which will eliminate hard feeling and uncomfortable relationships with family members. Which will make our homes the place of love and comfort that our Father in Heaven intended them to be.

Tamara answered…

I have found several ways to increase the harmony in our home. Probably the most important has been to read scriptures together every morning while the family eats breakfast. We read a few verses and stop to discuss what they mean to us. It brings a spirit of peace into our home. Another way to increase harmony is to teach the children that our family is an eternal family unit. What we develop between us in this life will go with us as we depart this world. Knowing that we can be together forever makes us try harder to be kind, to help each other with problems, and to become a team. We are all in this together! Lastly, we pray together every day, for each other's health, for help with our daily tasks & responsibilities, and for those we know who are undergoing difficult trials. We always feel closer when we unite in prayer.

Bryan answered…

Harmony in the home can be more readily achieved through mutual respect and understanding. As family members, we are there to support one another through decisions and act as guides for each other. Too often, because we are so close to each other in the home, it becomes easy to cause the most hurt mentally and verbally. Care should be taken to emphasize respect for each other and to speak to each other in a loving way.

Kathy Neumiller answered…

We can develop greater harmony in our home by having a Christ-centered home. A family needs to make time for each other which will benefit every member much more than all the individual activities each family member does. For instance, a family should eat meals together so children can share their achievements, their doubts and fears while the listening parent can guide them in an atmosphere that is loving and caring. A family should do activities together, to strenghen the bond of family. If done early in life, and continued through the teen years, those bonds will remain strong and unbroken. A family should pray together, with each member being able to express their love for Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. If we teach our children always to give thanks for their blessings and give them guidance in any obstacles that they will encounter during their growing years, they will better know what to do and how to handle an uncomfortable situation when it does come. The family that prays together, stays together is not just a nice saying, it truly does bring families together in peace and harmony.

James answered…

We develope greater harmony in the home by taking time to listen to each other and by showing appreciation for all that each person of the family contributes to the family. Put an arm around each other and show that you care for them. Avoid attacking someone when they do not agree with you. We are each individuals with God given blessings and divine potential. Work together as a team. Remember that there is no Me in team.

Katherine! answered…

I feel more harmony in my home as I pray with my husband and share with him things that uplift, and encourage me to try to be my best self. I also feel more harmony in my home when as a family my husband and I meet together and share principles of the Gospel and do thing that we both enjoy.

Katie answered…

Something that worked when I was younger and fought with my siblings was "going to the step". My parents would have us sit on the stairs, and we couldn't leave until we had worked it out. The requirements were to apologize, ask for forgiveness, and to do it with the right attitude. It took a long time when we were being stubborn or defiant, but in the long run, it was effective for teaching how to get along with each other and with other people. It was also kind of fun, because my parents would usually ask us to hug each other as a final requirement, and by that time we were laughing and gave goofy squeeze hugs.
As a college student, I've usually had good roommates, but it makes it kind of tense for me when I have roommates that don't help with the dishes, trash, or buying toilet paper. To develop harmony in my apartment, I try to treat my roommates respectfully and be kind, even when I'm frustrated. I try to be Christlike and serve them, showing that I'm not asking them to do anything I'm not willing to do. I think when we treat people with love and a spirit to serve each other, it helps everyone get along better, and feel more at peace themselves, even if their situation isn't optimal.
In both situations, the most important thing was centering on Christ, and following His example. He is the ultimate Peacemaker, and if we emulate His patience, understanding and love, increased harmony in our homes will be a direct result.

Becky answered…

Harmony is one of those hard things to develop. I grew up in a home with 5 girls and one bathroom. You can probably imagine the chaos and the arguments that erupted almost daily. Harmony was not the easiest thing to have. However, I've learned that harmony comes when we are focused on Jesus Christ. I also find that harmony takes a lot of effort. I try to pray for the Spirit in my home and to have the mindset to be a little nicer to my husband. When you live with someone you get to know them really well and oftentimes you know their faults better than anyone else. I try to focus on the good things my husband does and not the little annoying habits. I think that being positive about others helps bring peace and harmony to everyone around me.

Rob answered…

Love and harmony in the home truely the best defense against the advesary. Doing things together as a family. Reading the Scriptures together, and having kind words for one another... Faith Hope and Charity. We try to make sure we have turns of doing things that each of us enjoy doing as a family outing or acitivity. Service projects as a family activity is fun too.

Meredith answered…

Greater harmony in our homes can be founded on the principles of the Gospel and the teachings of Jesus Christ. If we remember that every human being on earth is a beloved son or daughter of God and that we are all here to serve each other, it would erase much of the discord and strife that comes into our homes. If we could love each other as God and Christ do, so much of the negative things we do to each other would be wiped out. By stopping and thinking about how Christ would want us to respond in each situation, we could do away with harsh words and actions that hurt those we claim to love.

Leticia answered…

First have Always your family prayers always . then have family home evening when ever you can no matter what time it is just do it one's a week and you will see a change in everyone and in your home .
all who inter your home will feel the peace that come's with ....

Armando answered…

Me away from temptation

Andrew answered…

A lot of the time I believe people aren't really listened too. So listening, really listening and hearing what people say. Once everyone is heard and understood everything is clear to make decisions that benefit everyone. Having the Gospel of Jesus Christ means we can have faith, patience and tolerance until we can make a harmonic choice based on the principles of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
I always find prayer is a great way to bring unity to people. Also forgiveness and reliance on the promptings of the Holy Ghost bring great rewards. 

Bryan answered…

I grew up in a home with two parents and three sisters. My kind sisters would occasionally hide notes for me to find expressing gratitude for something I said or did, or just letting me know they loved me. My sisters melt my heart. It was always fun and easy to reciprocate their gestures of love. That note-writing tradition continues today. Even now that we have all left our childhood home we still send each other private facebook messages or emails or make phone calls nurturing the love we share.

Having a tradition of passing "love notes" sure did help to balance out the moments of contention in the home and lessen the time for a feeling of harmony to return.

Stephen answered…

Pray. Read the scriptures. Love each other. Serve each other. Be kind, patient and loving. Teach by precept and example and give children the opportunity to choose right and wrong. Support them. Talk to them. Listen to them. Play with them.

Kristen answered…

 One of the best things you can do for your family is to spend time with them, pick one night a week and play games, go bowling, or read a story. My Family loves this activity, it may seem hard at first but, stick to it, your kids are worth it.

Kishl answered…

A few Saturdays ago, my family and I were out playing frisbee together. The feeling was lighthearted, teasing and laughing going on. I paused for second and took in the moment. These are the most important people in my life. My husband, my sons, my daughter - all of us together. The thought came to me, "This is what counts. These are the ones I will be with forever." I love knowing we can be together as a family after we die.

Spending time together laughing and having fun creates harmony in our home.

Karen Leihua W. answered…

We can develop greater harmony in our homes by setting the scene. Leaving the world at the front door. Leaving things that are not of this world outside so that the spirit is able to teach, edify and uplift all those that live there and visit. Harmony comes through reading the scriptures, saying personal and family prayer and living the commandments.

Samuell answered…

Harmony and peace are very difficult to achieve in a family. I grew up in a large family and have 3 kids of my own right now. Each person has their own wants and needs.
Often to achieve that peace we seek, we have to let go of the selfish side of our lives and ask what everyone else needs. Put your self last and the family first.
Take time to have a family night together. Single parents can play games, write stories or take their children to serve others in a nursing home or soup kitchen. Teach service by example and your children will follow.
Once they learn service you will find that their is less of "ME" in the home and more of "US".
Seek to teach through good examples.
It is hard to say I Love YOU if you did not hear it growing up. Give it a try. the first times I did it the words sounded odd and foreign. It did not sound normal. Now I say it often to my parents, siblings, wife and kids.
Seek time out of each day to read at least 1 page or chapter out of the scriptures. They will bring peace to your soul. Then make time to read with the family. They will find peace in them also.
Pray with your family and by your self. Prayer does not have to be elaborate to find Heavenly Fathers ear. A sincere simple prayer of thanks will help bring peace into your home.
Be willing to say "I Am Sorry" and mean it. Be humble enough to admit you are wrong and to not rub it in someone else's face when you are right.
Treat your family the way you want them to treat you. Pray with them, play with them, read with them. When you do these things often, you will find harmony rests upon your home.

Nancyjo answered…

Raising 5 children - 4 of them boys with their beautiful sister right smack in the middle was a noisy endeavor. How did we find harmony? It felt like not very often. There is bound to be bickering, jealousy and frustration in any family I finally discovered the answer for us was to simply to eliminate the tone of contempt in our voices when as parents we spoke to the children. The biggest difference came when we had a family mantra and that was " Happiness Runs in our Family." we said it, we quilted it, we painted it... When arguing would break out - someone would simply say Happiness Runs in our Family and the bickering would stop. It's a simple thing but now , my children are grown with children of their own and they have taught it to their children. It helped us eliminate contempt and judgement and to speak with love and kindness.

Isaac answered…

By starting, step by step, with our family home evening. At first we had a bit of trouble with it, since our schedules didn't match at all, but we started with making our family prayers. That slowly brought us together, since we knew we had to make our family prayer before going bed. Afterwards, by assisting to more Church activities, since we can participate and share at home what we learned/did and perceived. And slowly, we started doing our family home evenings, and we (my brother, my mom and I), would give a little lesson, or sometimes the little lesson would be personal and we'd discuss about situations that have been affecting us. It's all about communication, if there is no communication, then it is hard to bring harmony.

Jessica answered…

I have found that by doing service to my family members, it helps create a happy, loving environment. Also, just complimenting my family brings the Spirit into my home. If we refrain from insulting or putting down our family members, our relationships can increase greatly.

Casper answered…

For this purpose and as a Dad, I recommend a weekly family night that everyone in the family sets aside to spend time together in doing some sort of activity. It's also a good place to discuss any issues that may arise and affect the family. The other important thing to do (also speaking as a father) is to make sure that I go on a date with each member of my family at least once a month just to enjoy one another's company and have a chat to see how things are going and where support may be needed.

Nathan. answered…

Don't sweat the small stuff. So often we get caught up in minute details that turn into big arguments. Love should abound, while anger is rare - not the other way around. Outwardly speaking about problems in a calm setting can help prevent outbursts that we will regret later.

Monique answered…

In my opinion, one of the ways to develop greater harmony in our homes is to focus on the idea that each of us is a son or daughter of a Heavenly Father. Sometimes life can be difficult, and relationships can be strained. However, if each member of the family knows that the others are loved by our Father in Heaven, it is easier to remember to show love toward each other and be respectful.
I have two teenage daughters that I love to spend time with. They are sweet and kind. Sometimes they tease each other, sometimes they get on each other's nerves. However, they always know that their dad and I love them and that their Heavenly Father and Jesus love them. Disagreements rarely last very long and never result in violence, because they know that would offend all of us who love each of them so much.

Allen answered…

I am a big believer in saying things like "Thank You," "Please," and "You're Welcome." Life is wonderful and we should do our part to treat everyone with kindness. I believe people are generally trying to do their best. Our job is to support them and love them. That means serve them.

I feel one of the greatest challenges placed before us is selfishness. If we could all change our focus towards serving others and not be so focused on "what is in it for me," the world would be a much better place.

Want a better marriage? Then learn to serve your sweetheart - put her needs about your own. Love is not what you get, it is what you give! Do you want to enjoy your kids? Then learn to serve them too! Treat them as a gift from your Father in Heaven and always remember they are His kids, not yours. They will return to Him someday. In short, it is not about YOU, it is about THEM!

Chris answered…

With three young children, a demanding career, and other responsibilities, harmony in the home can seem like an unattainable ideal. Even as young newlyweds, before the challenge of work and parenthood arrived, having consistent harmony could at times be a challenge. With time, however, my wife and I have learned to rely on the Savior to make the impossible possible. We have found that through praying as a family and through studying the scriptures with our children, there is an increased peace in our home and more joy and laughter. Husbands and wives were never meant to succeed as a couple and as parents alone. Our Father in Heaven's plan for the family has always been for Him to stand there beside us and to carry us through our trials. With Him at our side, our homes can be a constant sanctuary from the storms of life.

Jerry answered…

How do we create greater harmony in the home is a wonderful question. To me it is an easy question to answer. #1 Read the scriptures daily as a family and as a individual. #2 Pray together as a family twice a day. #3 Have one night a week where you get together and talk, play games, discuss problems, and just have some fun. #4 Go to church together.

T. Malone answered…

One of the best ways I know of to live in harmony as a family is to do all within our power to avoid criticism, cutting remarks or any attempt to make another family member feel less than loved. We do this by sharing the same ideals and goals – to seek happiness in living the gospel of Jesus Christ. Where some family members may not have fully accepted the vision of the gospel, we can provide an example of tolerance and patience with them, just as our Heavenly Father and our Savior do with us. Fighting, arguing, bickering and contemptuous behavior toward any family member is not the way to have peace and harmony in our homes. Thus, we pray each day that such undesirable activities are mitigated by expressing love and kindness in all that we do. We are each at differing levels of maturity in our understanding of this concept, so it is up to those who do, to live it better each day.

Liz. answered…

The things that have helped me the most is making sure to do as much as possible together as a family. Start the day with a prayer and end the day praying together. Sit down and read the scriptures together and talk about your beliefs. Make your home a safe place to be.

Ben answered…

Most of what I do personally to develop harmony in my home is how I strive to become a better person. I see my actions reflected in the actions of my children everyday. I know that as I become a better person my children will have a better role model to emulate. I know that I am not perfect and will not ever provide a perfect example to my children, but I do know that how I treat them and my wife will directly influence how they treat others.

Aaron answered…

I grew up in a home where there was contention. So seeking harmony was something our family continually wanted to work toward. Among Christ's teachings is the command to love our neighbor as ourselves. In the Book of Mormon there is a historical event when Christ appeared to the people in ancient america after his ressurection. One powerful thing he taught was that contention was of the devil and that we should not even get angry.

This has helped me tremendously. It hasn't made me perfect but rather made me aware that I have a choice. I am responsible to choose to get rid of anger. I can choose to get emotional and have expectations on others or I can choose to refrain from anger and rather be more flexible. I have tried to love my family members and have noticed less contention and when there is contention it is less severe.

Sometimes avoiding contention is beyond our control because we cannot control the actions of others. We can however focus what is in our control and that is how we choose to behave, the attitudes we embrace as well as the prayers to God over family members that are more prone to contention.

Matt answered…

It comes from trying to live the Gospel of Jesus Christ. I have seen that change my family over the course of the 20 years that I have been in it. As we have tried to humble ourselves and change, I have seen such wonderful things happen in our family. It takes great patience and a desire to forgive and forget each others' mistakes. We must bring the Spirit of the Lord into our homes.

Corey answered…

Our Heavenly Father has blessed us with so many ways to have peace and harmony in our homes. Two of my personal favorites are family scripture study and praying together as a family. All through out my life we always had family study and prayer before we went to school in the morning and I always enjoyed it but I really didnt start to realize how much it helped me and my family until I got a little older in life. During the busy time of farming I would leave for work and 630 am and not return home until around 9 pm so we didnt get to see each other much but every morning my mom would get up early and we would read some scriptures and pray together before I would leave and it would just make the day go so much better and there was definately a difference between when we would do it compared to when we wouldnt. It made us happier as individuals and brought us closer together as a family and I could never thank my parents enough for instealing that into my mind.